There's a lot of talk these days about manifesting your dreams. Talk of how YOU are actually the puppeteer in your own life. No one else is pulling the strings. Just you. And you are where you are because of that fact.
Now that can be a little hard to swallow sometimes. Especially if you are experiencing some lows in life right now. And let's face it. Sometimes it's just easier to blame an outside person or situation for your personal strife than take a look at what is going on with YOU.
And that's okay. Counter to the ideals that we are pressured to adopt as our own in today's world, you don't need to be perfect to have success, happiness, love or any of the things that you dream for yourself. Oh yeah. AND it is not selfish to want those things for yourself.
This life is a journey. This is a time to learn about yourself. Learn about who YOU really are inside. Not who you think you should be by now. Go easy on yourself. You deserve to love who you are and where you are in life. You deserve to respect yourself and your journey. Start from where you are, no matter where that may be. Accept the journey and make the choice to go after what you want for yourself. Keep on truckin' through the muck with a smile in your heart, because it really is true. You can have whatever you dream. It is there for you to blissfully enjoy. You just have to believe that you deserve it and love yourself enough to let it in.
I am, and have always been, what some would call "sensitive". As a child, I was always being told that I was too sensitive. That I needed to stop wearing my emotions on my sleeve, in fear of them being knocked off and shattered on the floor. Maybe you can relate.
Do you ever feel suddenly overwhelmed with emotions when you walk into, say, a store? You were feeling fine before you opened that door and crossed the threshold. Now you feel unsure, fearful, depressed, or defensive. What just happened to you? What is going on? Are you crazy?
Well, that could be, but it's doubtful. You are, more likely, another one of those people that is really sensitive. You have an innate sense of empathy and understanding, without being told in words or body language, for what others are going through and feeling. And that can be a tough deal when you don't take time to release the build up from a day or a week. Accept it. Know it. Love it. Protect yourself from other people's issues and boundaries. Here is a blog post that lists a lot of great ways to do that for yourself. Check it out if you feel so inclined.
And while we are on the subject, I want to share what I came away with in this week's session of Kim Care...a sort of acrostic poem, about meeting boundaries and forging past.
It happens to everyone. It just happened to me...the moment when you forget yourself and lose your direction...for a while. I got lost in the funk of the holidays and the hustle and bustle of the end of another year, and the beginning of a new year. I got so lost, in fact, that I truly FELT like I was meandering aimlessly. No where to go. Not knowing what to do. Feeling ho-hum about pretty much everything.
Then, some small circumstances, that I could have easily ignored, hinted that I should take a "Kim Care Day". It was the best advice I have taken from myself in a while! In fact, I have decided that "Kim Care Time" needs to happen every week! No ifs, ands or buts. AND, I am hoping that sharing this with you, will be encouragement for YOU to do the same for YOUR-self.
So, what is "Kim Care"? Well, it is time that I spend by myself, FOR myself. I can do whatever I want...just for me. Not things like working on my website or the books, although it could be reading a book. It's a time to reset myself and refocus on the important things in life. To give you a better idea, I am laying out how this week of "Kim Care" progressed.
1. I turned off my phone and all other outside world distractions.
2. I made myself a cup of tea.
3. I lit a few candles.
4. I cleared out a space on the floor and got comfortable.
5. I asked myself how I am feeling, what I want out of life, how things are going, if there is something bothering me? And I listened, compassionately and intently.
6. Armed with that knowledge, I asked my Guides, Spirit and my Inner Self for guidance, understanding and direction.
7. I spent two hours writing in my journal, doodling, and receiving intelligence, inspiration, love, rejuvenation, and motivation from Universal Love.
Now I feel fantastic! I find myself enthusiastic about life again, in love with life again, ready for life again.
The commitment to myself was and is important. And for good reason, the amount of time was also important. It had been so long since I have cared for myself in this way, that I decided to fully deliver and spend big energy on myself. And it paid off.
It's easy to say that there is no time for such an exercise. It's easy to just keep plugging away at "life". It's easy to feel like you are being selfish and talk yourself into doing something that is "important" or "needs to be done" instead. But trust me. There is nothing more important for you to do, than your own, personal care time. So make a commitment to yourself. Carve out a couple of hours to give it a try and see how you feel. Do it! And then tell me how YOU feel!
And for those of you that keep going back to that selfish reason, here's a little more inspiration.